“Just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many” (Matthew 20:28).
Whether we are given to serving others or a self-serving existence is readily seen in our conversation with others. Do we talk about us or are we asking about them? Knowing that the church continues to exist only as we reach the next generation with the gospel, Jesus serves as a role-model of conversations purposefully focused on those with whom we speak, with the intention of connecting in a way that is meaningful and, perhaps, transformational. Self-serving conversationalists tend toward the past tense; making oneself the hero of the story; inflated narratives that weave together bits and pieces of truth to create a fictional account of what they wish reality had been. In contrast, those who live “on mission” focus on the present tense realities of those standing in front of us. “Tell me about your day” is a much more effective way of connecting than the self-inflating, “Back in my day.”